People are looking for deep, connected, and vulnerable relationships. Finding these connections as adults in the short time we have together on Sundays is nearly impossible. Cultivating these deep relationships requires work, it takes time, and we know we can’t engineer friendships. And yet, smaller groups are the spaces where we can have deeper conversations, wrestle with our questions about life, faith, and God, and figure out how to embody our faith. Our faith community is too large for all of us to know and keep up with everyone, so we depend on these smaller circles of support as we do our best to care for one another. Crossings organizes and facilitates groups to provide opportunities and space for deeper connections. This guide outlines the expectations and steps for joining a long-term group, as well as the processes groups will follow once they’ve started.

What to Expect

Gaining clarity about what people expect when they commit to a small group is crucial. How do people know what small group is right for them? What’s the process if a group isn’t working? Some people want their group to read and discuss a book together. Others might want to focus on what they are learning and experiencing from the Sunday gatherings or other life circumstances. Some people are looking for a more casual space to share a meal and connect with other humans in ways that go beyond surface-level relationships. We know that geography is becoming increasingly important, so we do our best to coordinate groups in the same area of Knoxville when location would otherwise be a barrier to their participation. People come in with different expectations of the group, varying levels of past group experiences, and varying levels of availability. Our goal is to make sure that people looking for a group find one that fits them well.

On-Ramps 

New Group Startups: A “call out” to start new groups happens in January and August for those who prefer to wait or find it easier or more preferable to join a newly formed group rather than one that has been established for a while.

Group Survey: Fill out THIS FORM to get the ball rolling and start considering your own expectations and experiences with groups.

Staff Check-in: Molly or another member of our staff will meet with you or talk briefly before or after a Sunday gathering to clarify responses to the above form, so we are clear on what you are looking for.

Temporary Alternatives: This process takes time, and while it’s always possible to make changes, we don’t want to rush people into group situations that don’t make sense. There might be situations where joining a session group or Cave-Table-Road in the short term is the best option until a new group forms or an existing one becomes available.

Off-Ramps 

Life changes and groups evolve. While some level of commitment is crucial for deeper relationships, people need regular checkpoints to determine whether the group still makes sense for them. Clear “off-ramps” are essential to help people avoid feeling stuck in a group and avoid burnout due to a lack of engagement and ownership. Clarity is kindness. We want to create a process that takes out the guesswork. Off-ramps include:

  • Annual Check-ins: Individual year-end checkups between the group leader and group members will provide an opportunity to communicate any changes or needs, including the need to step away from the group. 
  • Group Intention Setting: At the beginning of the year, the group will discuss their needs, expectations, and plans for the upcoming year with one another. 

For continuity purposes, people in groups are also welcome to reach out to any of our staff members at any time to discuss further participation in a group. Basically, we don’t want you to feel stuck in an awkward social situation you don’t know how to get out of—stepping away from groups and commitments when seasons in our lives change is normal. We want to remove as many barriers as possible for you to feel comfortable committing to a small group.